Lessons Learned from a Failed Relationship
Updated: May 12
Going through a divorce can be a difficult time, but it doesn’t have to be. Yes, we all have moments of reflection, followed by regret, maybe even some anger slightly dripping with pettiness. However, after all is said and done there are lessons one can take away from this.
During my time of reflection, I started to learn more about myself. Often times it’s easy to list the things the other person did to contribute to your breakup, but to really reflect inward and asses your own personality traits and attitudes can be cathartic.
Another lesson learned was about communication. I’m not claiming to be a master at it, but I’ve definitely learned how to better express myself without beating my other half over the head verbally. After all we aren’t mind readers, so improving ones communication skills is essential to any relationship, friendship or otherwise. You have to be able to communicate to the other person when you aren’t being valued, appreciated, or cared for. You never know, it may have all been unintentional, but you’d never know this if you don’t communicate.
Lastly, I’ve learned to let it go! I’ve always believed that people come into our lives for a reason, season, or a lifetime. Over the years, their purpose in your life gets revealed to you but if it turns out that they were only there for a season you’ve got to let them go as the relationship has served its purpose. I’m the first to admit, this lesson is hard, but you have to let one thing go to let a better thing come in.